|Posted on 20 November, 2018 at 18:50||comments (2)|
if you would like to catch my latest podcast interview by The Shine Counsel team, Renee Mc Donald and Narelle Wallace, please follow the link below. In this interview, I talk about why I created the SEMPI Social Communication Model, and why I was inspored to write it. i hope you enjoy the podcast. Warmest regards, Alyse
|Posted on 15 June, 2018 at 9:50||comments (0)|
For a quarter of people who are feeling suicidal, it comes down to a 5 minutes window, the time between the decision and the action. REACHING OUT TO SOMEONE IS THE KEY TO STOPPING OR SLOWING DOWN THIS PROCESS. This is a very difficult topic to talk about, which is part of the problem. Suicide rates have increased by more than 40% in the last 2 decades. Unlike heart disease or cancer, mental illness does not get the research or the funding of other diseases, and that stigma needs to stop if we’re ever going to reverse this worrying trend. We can’t wait any longer! There is a terrible cost to not dealing with our mental health. The numbers that we are seeing, are so vast, that we can’t afford to ignore this anymore, and we can’t just push it aside and say that mental health isn’t serious. It actually impacts all of us. Stats say that ONE BILLION people live with a disability, and 450 MILLION people live with a MENTAL HEALTH ISSUE! In America alone, 123 people die per day by suicide, which is close to 3 times higher than those who are murdered. The important thing is, that mental illness is treatable, and you can move out of it in most cases, but we all need to be more vigilant, and caring of those who are experiencing irrational thoughts. If someone is saying things like, ‘I’m thinking about dying’ or ‘I have a plan’ I suggest that YOU GO AND TAKE THEM TO SOMEONE WHO CAN HELP THEM PROFESSIONALLY. Not just say, ‘hey, you need to go and find yourself some help,’ YOU TAKE THEM. Go to the hospital, call the suicide prevention lines, do not leave the person. Walk alongside them, and provide practical helpful support. Mental health is very treatable, and mental health healing will start when the stigma stops. Mental Illness is true. It is not something that is dreamed up. Mental illness is not something that you can choose to just get over tomorrow.
THERE IS LIGHT! Luckily, we are starting to see an upward curve. The world is finally shining a light on mental health. It is not just a fad, or a joke, as I have seen it suggested on other social media platforms. It's serious, and people are uniting in this fight against stigma, learning how to have a voice, and coming out of the darkness. We are living in truly amazing times. I believe we are about to witness a new world shift toward mental health being equal to the attention being given to cancer and other diseases. Both Twitter and Instagram platforms are absolutely going off in regards to a positive spin on mental health. I am witnessing people, who for a very long time have struggled dreadfully, without a voice, now becoming empowered, and creating accounts where they are openly talking about their personal mental health struggles, on a public platform, with thousands of supporters applauding them, as well as actively sharing and liking their posts! People who we have not seen speak up before, are watching and learning from the brave ones who have stepped up now. I believe they will join the fight against stigma soon too. It's time to stand up together. Thank you for reading my article, kindest regards Alyse
|Posted on 27 October, 2017 at 2:20||comments (0)|
I had an idea. It was a big idea.
I wanted to design a social communication model to address loneliness and communication barriers.
I wanted the model to be for children and adults.
I wanted the model to respond to loneliness and give people a voice to feel heard.
I wanted the model to be altruistic with philanthropic principles.
I wanted the model to teach and promote empathy to communities at a grass roots level.
I wanted it to be FREE.
I wanted a lot and I’ll tell you why.
After 32 years of working in the community with people with disabilities and mental health issues it became very clear to me, that life in the community was getting harder, mental illness was becoming more prevalent and community resources were stretched to the limit. Basically, the task was looking bleak.
Why I created the model
Every day I saw extreme levels of loneliness, low self esteem and loss of hope. I saw class division, segregation, judgemental behaviours, inequality, stigma and discrimination. I saw very little integration or acceptance even in recent times with social media. My heart broke for the lack of a positive future that I saw for so many of my clients. I was frustrated about the lack of empathy shown to the people that I worked with, and consequently, for my Masters thesis, I studied women who were experiencing primary homelessness, as well as both mental and physical health issues, and how they viewed stigma.
I decided to do something more for these women and my clients than just data collection. Surely there must be some way to design a model empowering people to come together, from all walks of life, so that everyone can feel heard and understood. Couldn’t promoting greater empathy help to heal our communities?
How about an easy way of communicating for everyone? How about making it free so that it is available to anyone who needs it, day or night, weekdays and weekends.
Why the world needs SEMPI
Previously, we as a society have been taught the skills to identify and implement precautions so that we won’t become physically sick, but as a society we have not been taught how to prevent becoming mentally or emotionally unwell. Nor have we been taught how to look after our beautiful minds very well.
We all have mental health and are faced with challenges from early childhood which include bullying, peer group pressure, low self-esteem to much more serious challenges such as abuse.
Traditionally, society has chosen to be reactionary in its approach to mental health. This social communication model, teaches children and adults alike how to speak up about what they are experiencing in daily conversation, instead of bottling it up and not knowing how to talk about their experiences. It also teaches people living in a community a language that they can use, that is specific to their needs and wants, so that everyone can have an opportunity to feel heard and understood.
What is SEMPI?
For the past three years, I have been writing The SEMPI Social Communication Model to cover all of the points that I have mentioned.
This model covers all aspects of mental and physical daily health in an easy to learn and use system. It teaches the person a sequence task that is easily learnt.
The SEMPI model will give people the ground skills, words and confidence to talk about their daily experiences in general conversation. ‘SEMPI’ is a new and easy mental health language that teaches everyone how to use ‘mindful communication,’ to speak openly without stigma about their own mental health and how their emotions and thoughts are affecting them.
It is also a stop gap measure for people who cannot access specialist support services for a range of reasons, which may include personal ones.
We really need your support so that we can teach people this simple model.
This model has been designed with an altruistic ‘pay it forward’ philosophy.
Once learnt, the model can then be passed on to the next person, or used reciprocally with the original sharer/teacher, or to a group, creating a situation where each person can benefit from the relationship and then pay it forward themselves. This creates an amazing ‘pay it forward’ SEMPI’ chain that seeps into the community at a grass roots level.
What will you get out of supporting our model?
You will be part of a movement that ignites a cascade of ‘paying it forward’
You will be helping to make life better for others through your willingness to do things that advantage them.
Practising altruism activates regions in your brain that release pleasure chemicals, making you feel great!
You will be helping to inject the world with love and empathy through the selfless act of giving your time to another human.
A warm and fuzzy feeling will stay with you after your kind act.
What will your support do?
By supporting us in this crowd funding campaign, you are helping us to train people to teach and use this model within their own communities.
Thank you for reading. With love and gratitude, Alyse
|Posted on 8 October, 2017 at 8:15||comments (0)|
‘SEMPI Social Communication Model’ Important benefits for future generations
Written by Alyse Price-Tobler, creator of www.sempi.net
The ‘SEMPI Social Communication Model’ will be free for anyone who would like to use it across the world. It is written for anyone aged from 3 until 110, no matter what your physical or mental state, occupation, intelligence or social ranking.
This particular piece is specifically about the benefits of the ‘SEMPI Social Communication Model’ on children of this day and age and the generations that are following.
The ‘SEMPI Social Communication Model’ teaches our kids a new way to speak about, understand and gain personal insight about how both their bodies and minds are feeling from an early age.
‘SEMPI’ is a new and easy mental health language that teaches children how to use ‘mindful communication’ to speak openly without stigma about their own mental health and how their emotions and thoughts are affecting them. This is highly important, as the skills learned from the ‘SEMPI Social Communication Model’ come together holistically to teach any child the language to express themselves to another person. I also call it a ‘mentally boosting, pay it forward model’. This allows the child to feel heard and understood, while improving the emotional intelligence. It allows children to teach and use the new language with each other, or an adult anytime. It is hoped that the empathy and listening levels within the children utilising this model will become heightened, and emotional intelligence and caring for each other will become the norm, making bullying outdated and a thing of the past.
This model has been created specifically to reduce the stigma of mental health problems and mental illness among children, so that as they grow up speaking about their inner thoughts and emotions will be a normal everyday occurrence! Hopefully, the shame and guilt that we as adults feel regarding our own mental health, personal limits and taking mental health days off will not exist in the next generation of children. We need to start thinking long term and learn to empower our children for the generations that are coming. The ‘SEMPI Social Communication Model’ covers all aspects of mental health in an easy to learn and use acronym. This allows the child to use the model in sequence until they feel comfortable and once mastered, they can choose which letter they feel is the most important for them. It may even be a combination of letters to express their emotions.
Previously children have been taught the skills to identify and implement precautions so that they won’t become physically sick, but as a society we have not taught children how to prevent becoming mentally sick. Nor have we taught them how to look after their beautiful minds. We all have mental health and are faced with challenges from early childhood which include bullying from family members, peer group pressure, low self-esteem to much more serious challenges such as sexual abuse, abuse, neglect, exposure to domestic violence and involvement in divorce. Traditionally, society has chosen to be reactionary in its approach to mental health and this is where the ‘SEMPI Social Communication Model’ comes in. This model teaches children how to speak up about what they are experiencing instead of bottling it up and not knowing how to talk about the pain. It also teaches children a language so that if anything happens to them that they wish to share, then they will have the ground skills, words and confidence to talk about their experiences in safety. Children also have the option to explore their pain, give it a voice and develop an understanding of how and why it is affecting them.
The ‘SEMPI Social Communication Model’ also promotes mindfulness as it offers the child time to turn within and reflect on how their body and mind are reacting to the outside stimulus, in that moment. I believe that if a child can learn the skills from this model, adopt them into everyday conversation and have it become a natural part of their daily lives, then they may not carry as much trauma from the event into their adult lives due to the event being dealt with immediately, giving the child and adults around them information and time to decide whether professional help needs to be instigated.
Can you imagine for one moment, being able to stop any negative thinking quickly, preventing any ‘cyclical maladaptive patterns’ from forming as a child? (Levenson, 1997). As a society, we would also be imbedding the great importance of mental self-care into our precious youth. It needs to be a priority that we instil the importance of physical illness preventions equally as much as a new mental health language, where children listen to their minds, learn the ‘SEMPI’ language and use their voices in order to feel relief and be heard and understood. In many cases, it may also relieve loneliness.
We need to invest in this model for all of the future generations so that they don’t have to suffer like we have. Thank you for reading. With love and gratitude, Alyse
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